Hey hey Monday warriors!
If you made it this far in the day without a pint of ice cream or a counseling session then kudos to you, I may need both.
We’re back for another story of hope from one of my favorite Instagram friends, Katie- you can follow her on IG [here].
I truly believe that God led me straight to her. She has been a major force both spiritually and mentally in my life and I know her story will bring you hope as well! So here it is…
“A tale of how God brought me back to Him by turning my test into a testimony.”
“You know how adults ask children what they want to be when they grow up? Well… my answer was always “a mom”. I don’t think that’s what I got on my high school Career Aptitude Test but I knew it was something I was meant to do. Little did I know, becoming a mom wasn’t going to be an easy task for me. When I met my husband we talked early on about marriage and kids and what we wanted our lives to look like. Kids were always part of our picture and from the moment we were married we were officially TTC [trying to conceive]. Years went by and every avenue to grow our family was pursued. I literally dreamt about being a mom and taking my child to dance lessons, soccer practice, and to Disneyland. On February 23rd, 2017 my dreams finally came true. Our daughter was born!
My husband and I prayed for so many years for that day to come. The day that we will finally became parents. We feel that all the struggles that we have gone through to get to that point were more than worth it. We feel like God had that plan for us all along and we just didn’t see it. We don’t know how else to explain how easily our daughter came into our lives and how everything fell so effortlessly into place. We are so grateful for the strength, courage, kindness and love that our daughter’s birth mom showed us. Because of her and the amazing gift of adoption we are parents!
Backing up a bit, I had a great childhood. My parents were married and hard working. They always made sure that my brother and I were well taken care of with a roof over our heads and food on our table. We went to church and had a good life. I won’t go into details but there are a few moments in my childhood and teenage years that I let define my early adult life. I thought that God had turned His back on me so I did the same to Him. From the ages of 17 to 21, I made bad choices and a lot of them. Nothing super crazy but definitely choices that I wouldn’t make today. You might chalk it up to the college years and learning to become an adult but for me, it was about losing trust in God and needing to find it again to figure out who I really was and who God wanted me to be.
I met my husband in 2007 when I was 21 years old. We had both been hurt and lost our trust in the Lord. I think that’s why God put us together. He knew that we would make an unbelievable team and we do. We were married in 2010 and discussed accepting children willingly from the Lord in our pre-marriage counseling and began TTC immediately. It was heartbreaking when conceiving didn’t come easy and how every month would come and go without becoming pregnant. It was hard to see friends and family become pregnant and be joyful for them when I was heartbroken for myself. It was in that time that God started asking me if I trusted Him. I didn’t.
We started going to a new church during this time. We started praying more intentionally and we each chose to re-dedicate our lives to the Lord. In turn, we became happier, more hopeful, we grew individually and in our marriage. In those 6 years, we went through 4 doctors, IUI, IVF, Clomid, Metformin, hormone stimulators, hormone replacements, pills, shots, several miscarriages and the list goes on but still no baby. It was hard to stay positive at times but I just knew that God wanted me to be a mom and for my husband to be a dad. We even started to pray that His will be done and that if we weren’t meant to be parents that He would take the desires from our hearts. That’s a hard prayer! Again, God was asking me if I trusted Him and I finally did.
In 2016, God put the idea of adoption on my heart and my husband and I talked about it and prayed about it A LOT. We decided to start the process and had our home study in October. We also contacted a Family Law attorney in our area and heard about a birth mother that was seeking a family. Once our home study was done, our attorney sent the birth mother our profile. We found out we were going to be parents on Dec 23rd 2016 by opening a Christmas present from the birth mother that had a pink teddy bear and a very sweet card. It was a Christmas miracle. Our daughter was born on February 23rd, 2017 and she’s the absolute love of our lives!
Our adoption journey was very much painless and led by God! We have an amazing relationship with our daughter’s Birth Mother and are so blessed that God brought her into our life. Even though our story is very fairytale-ish, adoption isn’t for everyone. It comes with its own set of struggles and emotions. If you think that Adoption might be God’s plan for your family, pray about it, A LOT! Do you trust Him yet?
In my season of waiting, I would find hope in bible verses and quotes and put them as screensavers on my phone and on our verse of the week board. I thought I’d share a few with you.
“Your miracle may be taking a long time but God didn’t bring you this far to leave you.”
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” Romans 15.13.
“God already knows, stop stressing.”
“God can turn your test into a testimony.”
“You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.” Proverbs 19.21 “I prayed tot the Lord, and He answered me. He freed me from all my fears.” Psalms 34.4.